The Divine Masculine (i.e. the Divine Masculine energy that we all share) is something that I think many people consider to not exist all. I feel that Divine Masculine is more than what I think a lot of people associate with masculinity as we know it in our society today. It’s common to assume that the ‘toxic masculine’ that we see played out in our society and in its structures, is the only form of masculinity. In this blog, I argue there is a different way of thinking about this, and a different way of thinking about ourselves and each other.
As a practice and a concept of something we all have within us, Divine Masculine is about love, it’s about kindness, it’s about the future. It’s about helping others, it’s about speaking your truth, it’s about building a new world, not an old one. It’s about finding solutions that are for the future, not for the short-term. It’s about finding ways to build, that are about the future, not for the short-term. It’s about acknowledging that everyone is part of all there is, and that humanity is here for as long as it’s here, and the earth is here for everyone. It’s about acknowledging that love is real. That love is here. And that love is.
The bible gives various examples of the ‘masculine’ being tortured, murdered, and disobeying God. The bible gives us a lot of example of the ‘masculine’ talking, and the feminine doing the opposite. The bible gives an example in the ‘saviour,’ the ‘hero figure’ of human kind, the healer, the saint, Jesus Christ.
I can’t really say one way or the other how I feel about this really, other than the following: I believe that Jesus was a real person, and I believe he was a healer, and I believe he did care about people. This is all perfectly normal, isn’t it? It’s a man who cares. A man who wishes the best for people. A man who’s career is about helping others.
But I do have a few issues with some aspects of the way this story has been told, that I will go into now.
1.) Jesus is portrayed as a sexless figure. There’s been recent(ish) controversy about this, as to whether he did or did not have a partner. But the fact is, there’s nothing about him in the bible that suggests he has any sexual urges at all. Even his birth was ‘immaculate conception’ – i.e. it was ‘God’ that fertilised Mary, not her partner Joseph. We all know this story because we’ve all played the part of these people’s stories in nativity plays at school (in the UK anyway). Everything about Jesus, from his birth to his death, is entirely without any reference to sex or sexuality, at all. Celibacy is the something that’s admired, to the point of saint-like status.
2.) Jesus was a martyr. He was brutally crucified, in the name of taking on the ‘sin’ of humanity. This in itself, I think is laced with problems. Somehow or other, they’ve managed to turn what was a brutal murder and immense pain, into something we should all aspire towards. Are we really being a ‘proper person’ unless we’re martyring ourselves 24/7? Are we really ever going to feel close to God, if we’re not in pain? It’s basically teaching us that in order to have the best ‘human experience’ you need to be in heaven, not on Earth. It’s teaching us that humanity is about pain and suffering, and that being on Earth is hell.
3.) Apparently before Jesus died, and his following resurrection, God would have kicked all of humanity out of heaven, and after he died, he’d only let some people into heaven through those pearly gates with certain ideologies. According to Genesis, God had already kicked out Adam and Eve (the first mother, and first father of humanity) out of heaven a long time ago, and this whole brutal public murder, followed by resurrection, followed by the ‘saving of humanity’ was pre-planned a long time ago, even before Jesus’ birth. My issue here is: why do we have to have some metaphorical ‘pay wall,’ some monthly subscription to certain ideologies to be worthy enough of dying in peace? Some people will be angry about my reaction, but I am actually laughing at this idea.
4.) This idea has gone on quite a long time now. The power of raising children with immense shame is obviously very big. The power of iconography is obviously deeply rooted in our collective consciousness, to the point where we just think it’s ‘normal.’ It’s ‘normal’ to assume that humanity is bad and wrong and evil, and it’s normal to think that only through pain and suffering and struggle that you’ll get yourself out of this ‘situation’ – i.e. the sin of being alive. The capitalist economy is arguably rooted in cashing in on this shame, creating difference to try and divert the anger towards each other, rather than the people creating it. This system is ancient, and it sucks.
5.) Was Jesus Christ really a martyr for all our ‘sins’? Or was he just a person, that was trying his best, like the rest of us? Is it really that sinful to be alive? Or is humanity actually a complete miracle, and these people telling us we’re not worthy of being here are actually just people themselves, putting themselves in the position of God, and they actually fit in the bracket of (the technical term) f*%ked in the head?
I think this is most of what I really want to say actually. I think that suffering is never needed, and I think that humanity is rooted in love, not hate. I think it’s ok to be sexual, and be a man, and I think it’s ok to be sexual, and be a woman. And why do I think it’s ok? Because everyone’s amazing, everyone is human, and everyone is worthy of being human. Sexuality is the reason why we’re here, why we’re born, and we’re all just love, and I think this is the reason why demonizing sexuality is so destructive. It’s intrinsically related to who we are. It’s intrinsically related to life force, to the universe, to universal love.
To say to someone (normally from childhood) that your existence is rooted in sin and betrayal, is… and I don’t use this word lightly…. abusive. It’s utterly, utterly inappropriate. It’s teaching children the opposite of the miracle of life, it’s teaching them to sacrifice, to struggle and to hate themselves. It turns any form of meaningful love as an adult – whether that be sexual, or otherwise, into something to be ashamed of.
And does this message of separation and self-loathing advocate loving and kind behaviour towards yourself and others? Towards the planet, towards nature? I would argue, absolutely not. It pits you against yourself, this imagined battle with your own body vs God. The imagined struggle of yourself on this Earth. According to this narrative that you have to struggle to be close to God, you’re damned if you do, and damned if you don’t, and it leaves it up to the individual as to whether to listen to this or not.
I see these beliefs about sacrifice, about struggle, about existentialism (i.e. the pointlessness of everything), rolled out in every single aspect of our economy, our capitalist system, our mainstream media and entertainment, our global system that relies on exploiting people, for a small amount of people’s gain. Along the lines of sacrifice and struggle, you could actually justify any form of enslavement, and any form of harming others. Any form of martyring yourself for war. Of martyring yourself for God.
This is social conditioning, that happens to so many people in schools (and churches) at the age of 5, that we forget that it was taught, and that the idea of suffering is normalised from a young age. The age when we’re establishing a sense of self, a sense of being in the world, a sense of how we view ourselves and others.
If people loved themselves, would people still be in poverty? If people were never hurt, would they seek to hurt anyone else? If people saw abundance within them, would they try and dominate the world, and still find themselves in a place of ‘lack’? I think these are all important questions, especially as we see this system that we’re in become increasingly difficult to live with.
We all deserve to be here, and we all deserve to love, because that’s exactly what we already are. Violence, pain, domination, control, manipulation… these are all examples of battle, of struggle, of sacrifice, and I would argue, none of this is necessary. You are already enough. This is just how I feel.
The Divine Masculine is possible, because it’s within everyone. It’s possible to be a father, without trying to play God. It’s possible make money, without trying to play God. It’s possible to be in a relationship, without trying to play God.
Anger is a common theme (in women and in men), and I think a lot of this stems from our own beliefs about our place in the world. Our own beliefs around our bodies, our future, our purpose, our capacity to love, our worthiness of love, our worthiness of being ourselves.
It’s always possible to heal this, in any way that you think is appropriate and will work for you. Often we carry beliefs about ourselves and our place in the world from our ancestors, from societal conditioning and norms that we see in the culture around us, from experiences in our childhood, and beliefs that we hold within our soul. It’s always possible to heal this, you are always yourself, and you will always be amazing.
Humanity is a miracle. And I think it’s ok to recognise this, within yourself and others.
Love is a miracle. And you are you.
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