What ever happened to sensuality? To this idea of touch, of closeness, of connecting to your own beauty, your own sovereignty, your own place on this earth, to nature, to your own body, your clothes, your jewellery, your possessions? I would argue this idea of sensuality, of the Divine Feminine, has been shamed and side-lined for many generations.
I’m writing this blog as someone that was taught the Adam and Eve story at the age of 5, in a ‘non-religious’ primary school in the UK in the 1990s.
It was taught to me, as I’m sure it was taught to most people, as the fundamental story line, that prefaces every other teaching at school, a bit like how Genesis is the first book of the Bible.
Some people would argue that the teaching of this story is ‘tradition.’ A bit like the nativity play, singing hymns in assembly every morning, being taught about the Christmas story… and the Easter story… the birth, death and the resurrection of a notable figure, Jesus Christ.
These stories have a common theme, and the common theme is sacrificing yourself for God. Sacrificing yourself for ‘sin.’
In the Adam and Eve story, it was Eve that listened to the kundalini snake telling her to eat the fruit of knowledge, and got kicked out of heaven and into ‘hell’ on earth for disobeying God’s wishes. And in the story of Jesus, apparently it was pre-planned that he would heal a lot of people, and then get publicly murdered, in the most gruesome way possible, as the ‘son of God.’
Both of these stories have a theme, and the theme is personal power, being sacrificed for God.
The Adam and Eve story depicts femininity as the betrayal. The betrayal of ‘God’ for eating the fruit on the tree.
And the story of Jesus depicts the masculine as the hero. The scape-goat of all humankind’s ‘sin.’
The Adam and Eve story depicts Eve as the ‘fallen’ one, and Adam as being coerced by Eve into doing the same.
As far as I’m concerned, these stories can be seen as the fundamental basis of misogyny, the fundamental basis of gender inequality, the fundamental basis of shame for being a woman.
As far as I’m concerned, these stories are the fundamental basis behind a lot of violence and fear. The idea that if you’re not sacrificing yourself, then according to these narratives, you won’t be close to God.
But is this really God talking in these stories? Or is it ego? Is it toxic masculinity? Is tradition invented, for some to dominate, and some to be dominated?
Why is sacrifice such a big theme?
Why is femininity portrayed as ‘original sin’?
I would argue that Divine Feminine is not original sin at all, it’s life force. It’s the energy of life, Earth, nurture, protection, beauty, grace, child-birth, sisterhood, motherhood, wisdom, intuition, abundance, love.
The story of Adam and Eve whittles this feminine down to ‘someone that couldn’t listen to instructions.’ It narrows femininity down to be something that is controlled, and scorned for not adhering to this control. Femininity is shown as something that is here on this earth, but isn’t allowed to touch anything.
The ‘Eve’ in Adam and Eve is a repressed woman, an infantilised woman, a shamed woman, an ostracised woman, a scape-goat for Adam’s apparent lack of personal discernment, and the image of someone that isn’t welcome on this Earth.
But that fact is, I would argue that Divine Femininity is part of all there is. Divine Feminine is within all of us. Softness, nurture, care, kindness, communication, sharing, loyalty, love. I would argue these virtues are not just within women, and not just within men. With all have the ability to love in abundance. We all have the ability to be soft, to nurture, to care, to be kind, to communicate, to share, to be loyal, to love.
This Adam and Eve story teaches children that love is a sin.
This story teaches children that love isn’t real.
This story teaches children that God isn’t real.
I’ve written about this in a previous post, how atheism is at the centre of the Adam and Eve story. I’m arguing that that’s applicable here, that the feminine is depicted as something ‘Godless.’ That Earth is depicted as something that is without love, without hope, without joy, without God.
I think this representation and the way that we’re taught to feel about ourselves and each other needs to change. I feel strongly about this, and I know not everyone will agree.
I’m just saying how I’m feeling.
Divine feminine is within everyone. And it’s not a sin to love. It’s not a sin to feel safe with love. It’s not a sin to feel safe with your heart, with your body, with your mind.
Even now, I see this narrative of Adam and Eve ‘original sin’ played out in day-time television, in film and in tv shows. This idea that women are never going to be equal to men, because they are inherently flawed, and men are the heroes. The idea that women need to sacrifice, need to struggle, and live in the shadow of men.
Things are changing, but in many ways, the mainstream just does not seem to want to budge. It’s slow to the point of immobile in some areas of the media, entertainment and film.
I think this has got to change.
I think people are becoming more aware of this, in some areas, but not others.
I think there’s been a lot of good work done about highlighting the issues of ‘passive’ female characters in films, the stereotype of the woman being ‘rescued’ by the man has been challenged by many, and I applaud this work.
I applaud the work done that suggests that women have power, because that’s exactly what the patriarchal stereotype of femininity suggests women don’t have.
I would argue that the ‘education’ that we have historically received about gender (and inequality) starts somewhere, and for me, it was Adam and Eve.
The Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine… the first woman and first man… both getting kicked out of heaven from the word ‘go,’ by being ‘lead astray’ by femininity.
I would argue that one of the things that has been lost as a result of this fear, is sensuality. Power, in its ‘Divine Feminine’ form.
Touch, closeness, of connecting to your own beauty, your own sovereignty, your own place on this earth, your own body, your clothes, your jewellery, your possessions, much of this has been conditioned to mean something shameful and wrong.
Divine feminine, and the sensuality associated with this, I think this has been used in the past as something to laugh at, to mock, to look at women or the divine feminine within men who are in their power, and think ‘that’s not normal.’ I’m hoping that soon, being in your power is the new normal. That loving your femininity is the new normal. That loving your softness, your voice, your ability to set boundaries, is the new normal. I’m hoping that wearing what you want is the new normal. That recognising your inner beauty is the new normal. That feeling proud of who you are is the new normal.
I’m hoping for change. Because it’s ok to be soft, nurturing and in your power. It’s ok to be beautiful, fierce and speak your truth. It’s ok to feel safe with love, because love is all there is.
Love is within everyone, and the Adam and Eve story us just drama. The Garden of Eden is within you. Abundance is within you.
Love is within you.
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